The Defeat Of Miriam And The Test Of Sons And Lovers

The defeat of Miriam and the â€Å"test† of Miriam were in Chapters 9 and 10 of Sons and Lovers, where the relationship between Miriam and Paul was slowly ending when he became aware that he did not love her as much as Miriam loved him. (Lawrence 212) During Chapter 10, their relationship was soon coming to an end because Paul finally realizes that he truly does not love anyone as much as he loves his mother, and he did not like how his relationship with Miriam is hurting Mrs. Morel. Miriam did not see their relationship was ending. In Chapter 10, Paul thought that if they would to have sex then maybe it would solve their problems. However, that was not the case. In my opinion, Paul and Miriam having sex was a mistake because of the lack of accepting with each other thoughts and desires about sex. Also, dealing with Paul’s mother was a large issue in their relationship which caused the lackluster love in their relationship. The tests that they both put each other throug h to see if sex is just as important the emotional connection before she made the â€Å"sacrifices† that Miriam gave out to express how much she wants to be with Paul. (Lawrence 317) The lack of acceptance about each other’s truly desires was a reason for why having sex was a mistake for Paul and Miriam. In Paul’s words, Miriam is described as having an â€Å"orthodox creed†(Lawrence 212). Her strict beliefs of marriage and sex that she was grew up with were the opposite of Paul’s. â€Å"At this time he was beginning